Is Romance Dead?
First let me say the last few days have been a little difficult and I haven't been round to your blogs.. I'm feeling a little better and will do that today, I promise!
Moving right along! If you don't already know, I write sex stuff for Askmen.com and my second article went up this past Saturday. Well, I got slammed by a few readers for one of my suggestions.
People can be so charming, can't they?
(Scroll down to for the link to read/vote on the article.)
The assignment I was given was about complimenting your woman in bed - cos, let's face it, most men do little more than grunt before they roll off of you. Well, that's my impression, anyway, and that's taking into consideration the opinions of my girlfriends over the last decade.
So I thought it would be helpful for men to know compliments DO f*cking work, when they are sincere.
I listed 4 that don't have to be too sweet, they can all be raunchy if you say them right. And then I listed the 5th, which is, well, ROMANTIC. Very sweet. It could be hot and sexy too if the man knew how to pull it off, but generally speaking it's old fashioned romance you'd expect to see in a movie, perhaps.
And why the fuck not?
Where the hell do people think these "movie" ideas came from? Do they really think women hate hearing how lovely they are? Do men really think we wouldn't get wet hearing how nice our breasts, nipples, thighs, ass, etc., are?
Do these men actually have girlfriends??
If anyone wants to take my side, here's the article - feel free to vote and leave comments!
xx Isabella
12 Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest:
Apparently, romance is dead. That's exactly what those comments show you. As for that woman, she's jaded thanks to romance being dead.
Shayze you are a darling! Thank you for taking my side!! :))
I wish I didn't have to on this one. It's sad that romance is gone. Or, at least for a lot of men out there.
not for all men ... thank goodness. well done, isa, for taking on the masses!
I thought the article had some good points, but I have to agree on that last one. That's one that always made me roll my eyes. I wonder if I've ever used it in a book... I don't think so.
Shayze - Really, really sad!!
Me - Ha.. dunno about that! ;)
Shelli - It would have made me do the same if I'd heard it a few months ago. Really depends on who is saying it to you and how you feel about him. I've never used it in a book either, and don't think I ever would - it's something you have to hear for yourself, I think. It's too hard to believe it when you hear other people saying it.
I suspect Shazye is right - we're all jaded. Or were. Americans in particular - Europeans are a great deal more romantic than us, for some reason.
Hey, wtf? I'd love to hear someone say our bodies fit perfectly together. Shit, I'd be happy if a man said ANYTHING to me in bed. They usually just come and go.. if you know what I mean.
Bastards..
Got any more of those sagittariuseses in your closet? I'll take a blow-up one at this point.
Speaking from the Chicago side of the Atlantic....NO, my dear, romance is NOT dead. I have always owned all those goofy feelings; I will experiencing sex with a wide range of women, and have done so. But I have never fucked a woman for the sake of fucking. Never. I always need some kind of attraction. And I don't give a damn if it's her conversation, her touch, her ass, her hair or her demeanor. If I like it, if I'm drawn to her, I will have sexual feeling. Then it's up to me on how to control it. To me, the attraction IS the romance, the allure, the reason for intimacy on a sexual level. What's the point otherwise?
And I just loved this paragraph that you wrote: "I had no idea a man would have an interest in grabbing your hair, bending you over the bed, do anything he wants to you until you scream his name ecstatically - all the while telling you how beautiful you are, how he feels about you, how much he cares about you and wants to be your hero."
Hell, I had no idea a woman would want to be taken like this and still find him romantic. So we all live and learn in this world.
I think guys might feel like "why do I need to say the obvious?" when it's not a matter of confirmation of facts, it's an affirmation of attraction.
Tell me why I'm hot, goddammit! Tell me why you like it!
Hee hee....
It's called communication people. It doesn't always have to be all Doctor Phil and relationship-y ..."Fuck, baby I love it when you ride me like that" cam be pretty effective communication.
Bambi - LOL! A blowup Sagittarius.. I might want one of those too!!
Ronjazz - Welcome! Oh, hell yes, women want to be taken like that. Trust me. ;))
Jason - Yes, exactly!!!!!
Seeley - Not sure if I read you right, but I never said it had to be, or should be, Dr. Phil. Only the last compliment was sweet and romantic, IMO. For the others,"You're so good at" could easily be "You're so good at sucking my cock" as much as anything else. Your example is hot but I doubt I'd be allowed to publish it!
um, not quite what I meant at all.
I was agreeing with you and encouraging communication outside of Dr. Phil.
I suppose it did come off a bit ranty...sorry 'bout that.
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