Sex: Moaning vs Screaming
Have you ever heard this stupid question often asked among men? "Is she a moaner or a screamer?" Why is it supposed to be either/or? Personally, I can't imagine any woman not moaning at some stage of sex; foreplay, in particular. Screaming does seem to be far less common and, while I do scream during (good) sex, it's usually only during orgasm and only when the orgasm is just too damned powerful to keep quiet.
But why is it either/or? If a woman is just moaning during an orgasm, this suggests to me that the orgasm ain't all that special. If she's quiet during foreplay, this suggests to me that foreplay sucks. Seriously, who doesn't both moan and scream? Surely all of you have done both in the same sex session at least once -- if not always? Come on, tell us.
Do you scream, moan or both?
xx Isabella
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My wife told me that she was getting me a sweater for my birthday.
Too bad -- I was hoping for a moaner or a screamer.
Isabella, you are far too educated and knowledgeable to be asking questions such as this. There is far too much psychology involved to really delve into this subject. I know my partner enjoys sex extremely well but there is a barrier in which she and most people hit that they don't want to cross in letting loose. It's either don't wake the neighbours, don't wake the kids, or don't wake the people in the hotel room next door. You need to ask, when can a person let loose and when they do, what do they do.
Tom - LOL!
H -- I don't *need* to ask anything I don't want to ask! And FYI, screaming isn't something you just turn off because other people are around; there is such as thing as contained screaming that isn't audible in another room. Screaming isn't necessarily defined by volume and I'll thank you kindly not to imply that I've asked a stupid question!
I am a moaner and a screamer. But since I started using vibrators, i've learned that i am also a "sobber', lol. I say as long as you are not holding it in, everything is fine.
LMAO!!
I neither scream nor moan, thank you very much.
GM
I should hope not....! ;-)
I'm pretty quiet. If I do anything, I moan - definitely no screaming for me. I don't even scream if I'm scared shitless or hurt and in horrible pain.
I'm quiet by nature - in fact, I naturally walk so softly that people get freaked out like I snuck up on them.
For something as intense as an orgasm, I have to go inside - deep inside. Making a vocalization takes me out of the moment and pretty much ruins it.
Hmm, very interesting, Julia!
OK...
I do not Orgasm easily. Just a thing with me...I am working on it but it takes a long time to get me there.
However, I have recently become very verbal in bed, partner enjoys this and encourages me to do so. I would not say I scream but become quite "intense" when the big moment does happen. The moaning, gnashing, rapid breathing all add to the release for me.
Hi Southerngirl, I'm the same way; it adds to the experience for me. :)
It all depends on how much lead up I have to the actual orgasm. Lots of lead up leads to a rebel yell...anything else...some polite moans...sigh.
I don't do either. I breathe heavily and gasp. I'm actually quite quiet in bed, whereas my girlfriend is loud, and that I like a lot.
Red -- Polite moans... LOL! Sadly, I know what those are!!
ILB -- So she does both?
I have to say that I didn't know. I thought that I probably was making some noise but when I'm really enjoying sex I'm not keeping track.
My husband used to say that I was very vocal and did both moaning and screaming. I honestly had no idea and didn't believe him until he recorded it one night.
I was astounded at how much noise I actually did make. Yes, both moaning and screaming! And for the record, he said that the noise of a woman truly enjoying herself was the biggest turn on ever.
Isabella, firstly I didn't "imply" that you asked a stupid question. If I thought you did I would just tell you straight out. What I was suggesting was that not all of the mechanics had been considered. Quite different.
What I did imply, from the very start, was that you were far too experienced to not think there was more to the issue. You tell me which assumption was wrong.
BSG -- Wow, that's pretty impressive if you're so into it you don't know what you're doing. You must be quite a good lay. ;-)
H -- Sorry but I don't have the energy for this type of exchange.
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